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06 Jan

I’ve had enough self-awareness to keep my distance ever since, though the damage has already been done.She said “I don’t know” and it looked like she was nervous and didn’t know what to do.I backed off physically, but I pressed the point: mostly questions in the “why not? We parted without incident, but met back up at the end of the party (the group was riding back together).I was glad to get the straight-up answer, but I had to push her boundaries to get it. I know intellectually that getting a non-answer in these situations means “no”.It’s clear that I’m establishing a disturbing pattern: I get interested in a woman; I make a move; she gives a non-committal response; I don’t take it as the brush-off it is and end up making unwelcome contact (i.e. It’s also clear in retrospect that I should’ve just backed off in these cases, but I seem to panic in the moment and not act on that knowledge.

Another scenario: I saw a woman on a regular basis at an activity. Confronted with the news, she became very awkward and didn’t give a clear verbal response (“oh…uh…”).

We ended up having a good conversation (abouteverything else), but my declaration was left hanging.

My social skills have been getting better, and I’m getting treatment for my mental health issues.

I think I’m capable of dating now, and I’ve met a few interesting women to connect with in the last year or so.

You’re not doing anything wrong by asking people on dates, asking them to kiss them, or telling them you like them. You don’t need to push for a clearer answer or settle the question or codify the rejection. If she flirts with you, it’s okay to flirt back, but don’t renew the request for a date or a kiss. Just because you were comfortable with it once upon a time doesn’t mean you have to be comfortable with it when your feelings are hurt. A woman who genuinely wants to look at your etchings will find a way to ask you about them. If someone says no to Thursday, specifically, but yes to the idea, you are cleared to ask again, one time.

There are exceptions – I think teachers hitting on their students is always pretty creepy, for instance, and your cute barista smiles that way at everyone because she is trapped at work and capitalism demands her emotional labor – but feeling attracted to someone and asking them about it isn’t creepy. You say you are shy and you don’t have a lot of confidence. You say you aren’t getting clear yes or no answers, so, make your requests for dates or whatever easier to say a clear yes or no to. If it gets super-hard to make plans and it feels like there is never the right time, 1) Stop: “” and (this is key) then he left me alone. Pickup Artists and other dregs at the bottom of the dating pool talk about something called the “shit test” – where women say no to an early request to test to see if the guy will persist, and they encourage you to push back on this early no.

Also, you are asking, not doing that “making a move” thing in movies where men grab women and mash their faces together that is romantic in fantasy and consensually in established “grabbing” relationships but not actually in real life. Next time you feel that spark of interest in somebody, keep doing what you’re doing and ask. This is how you build/practice/get confidence: You say your piece, you let the other person make a decision, and you trust that once in a while someone will decide you are worth risking an awkward conversation for. “Would you like to be my date to this comedy show on Thursday? He assumed he was never going to hear from me again and moved on with his life. What if he had written to me repeatedly to get me to go out with him? One of my early dating tests that I didn’t realize was a test at the time is the “ test.